Happily (and Healthily) Ever After


And they lived happily ever after…

If you are like me, you grew up hearing a lot of  fairy tales that ended with the phrase “and they lived happily ever after.” While it sounded good, the proclamation always left me with a lot more “but what happens next” kind of questions.

  • Where and what is happily ever after anyway?
  • What does it look like?
  • Will I know it when I see it?
  • Is it an actual place or is it something to be experienced instead?

No one ever explained how to get to the place of happily ever after, let alone how to live happily ever after if I ever found myself there.

Happy was a bit of a mystery.

Now as an adult I find that the phrase “be healthy” feels very similar.  If you are anything like me, you read article after article, you purchase fitness magazines and order subscription after subscription and devoured them whole. You watch news shows, read blogs and recipes that all have the “be healthy” message but beyond those two words, there is a lot of conflicting messages out there.

  • Do I eat full fat, low fat or no fat?
  • What is all of this buzz about sugar?
  • Should I be gluten free or wheat free or simply carb free?
  • Or is it about eating high protein? And should it be cage free, (oh no, free range) or is it best to eat no animal products at all?
  • Oh and then there are diets…Atkins or South Beach, Weight Watchers or Jenny Craig?

Personally, I have gone from carnivore, to vegetarian, to vegan and back around again and as time passed, the only thing that became clear was that the more I heard, the more confused and muttled the information became.

Healthy, like happy, was a bit of a mystery.

So what is a woman to do when all she wants is for someone to tell her, finally, once and for all how to live happily (and healthily) ever after?

I have discovered that it isn’t a one size fits all question. What brings you health and happiness versus what brings me those things can be very different and as I work with my clients, I have come to realize that this is a great thing.

“What? A great thing? What do you mean? I just want to follow a set of rules that will get me there. I just want to live my life, just as it is and simply be happy and healthy,” the internal voices are probably shouting.

It is a great thing because that means that your body has all of your answers. Your body is working overtime to get your attention and your job is to turn toward the face in the mirror and ask her what she needs. It is like Dorothy in the Wizard of Oz who always had the power to go home. You have always had the power to be what you most desire, and to live happily and healthily ever after.